The Women Who Apologize the Most in My Chair

Maybe today isn't about doing more. Maybe it's about being a little kinder to yourself.

There is a group of women I see every week in my salon.

Teachers.

Nurses.

Business owners.

Moms.

Grandmas.

Women taking care of aging parents.

Women raising children.

Women juggling careers, relationships, schedules, grocery lists, sports practices, and doctor's appointments.

And for some reason, they're also the women who apologize the most.

Not because they have done anything wrong.

Just because they've shown up.

"Sorry my hair is such a mess."

"Sorry i waited so long."

"Sorry I have roots."

"Sorry my hair is so thin."

"Sorry I had to reschedule."

"Sorry I haven't been using my products."

Sometimes I want to stop them right there and say:

"What exactly are you apologizing for?"

Life happened.

That's what happened.

Your kids needed you.

Work got busy.

Your dad got sick.

The school called.

The dog threw up.

The car needed tires.

You were simply trying to make it through the week.

And somehow, somewhere along the way, many women started believing they needed to apologize for being human.

I see it every day.

A woman walks into my salon carrying far more than her purse.

She's carrying stress.

Expectations.

Responsibility.

Sometimes grief.

Sometimes exhaustion.

Sometimes the weight of everyone else's needs.

Then she sits in my chair and immediately apologizes because her hair isn't perfect.

Friend, your hair isn't a report card.

I'm not grading you.

One of the things I love most about what I do is that hair appointments aren't really about hair.

Sure, we talk about color.

We talk about extensions.

We talk about products.

We talk about humidity and Texas weather trying it's best to ruin a good blowout.

But we also talk about life.

I've celebrated promotions, babies, graduations, engagements, and retirements.

I've cried with clients.

I've laughed until I couldn't breathe.

I've listened when life felt heavy.

And I've incredible women sit down and apologize for things they never needed to apologize for in the first place.

The truth is, most women that sit in my chair aren't high maintenance.

They're actually the opposite.

They're often the women who put themselves last.

The women who make sure everyone else's needs are met before they even think about their own.

The women who haven't had a moment to themselves in weeks.

The women who almost canceled their appointment because something felt more important.

And yet, when they finally show up, they apologize.

So let me save you sometime before your next appointment.

You don't need to apologize for your roots.

You don't need to apologize for your grey hair.

You don't need to apologize for your frizz.

You don't need to apologize because your life got busy.

You don't need apologize because you haven't had time to style your hair.

In fact, if you've made it to your appointment despite everything life has thrown at you lately, I'd say you're doing pretty darn good.

So the next time you sit in my chair, leave the apology at the door.

Bring your stories.

Bring your coffee.

Bring your messy bun.

Bring your week.

I'll take care of the hair.

Pull Up a Chair

And if nobody told you lately...

You're doing better than you think you are.

-Amber

Have you ever caught yourself apologizing for something you didn't need to apologize for? I'd love to hear about it the next time you're in my chair.